Letting Go culled from Deborah Monebi's Blog

Letting go…

Not only were Sandra and Grace best of friends, they also happen to be each other’s confidant.Life for both of them were completely different,Sandra was born into so much affluence,she had the love and care from her very educated parents .Grace on the other hand was abandoned by her parents,a good Samaritan saw her and took her to a government orphanage. She lived with so much criticism,rejection,and abuse in the orphanage.She never stopped wondering why her parents left her .

Sandra and Grace paths crossed in the university,and instantly they took to each other.They were often termed ‘twins’ by their close friends, they spent and shared most moments together and like every other young person, they found love in their undergraduate years.Unfortunately ,Sandra was jilted by the guy she was supposedly engaged to. Months passed,grace watched her friend change from the once lively young lady to a moody  and depressed person.Time they say heal wounds,that’s what grace thought,but she was wrong.

Five years later,grace is now married  with kids to her long term lover ,but  her friend’s life seems to be taking a downward spiral.One afternoon while having lunch together,Sandra  said  ‘’ I don’t seem to get it,I work so hard ,try my best,yet the management complains about my attitude,they are not even thinking of getting me promoted,and as for my relationship status…..i really work so hard to love and make it work,but it’s  not working.it’s either I call it quit,or the guys do’’

In a very soothing voice, Grace replied’’ all you just have to do ,is to let go…let go of all your anger, resentment and all that.’’ If you let go a little, you will have a little peace, if you let go a lot ,you will have a lot of peace.

Just like Sandra and grace,we have all been hurt by another person at some point or the other, we were treated badly,hearts were hurt,and trust was broken.while the pain is longer,sometimes,the pain lingers for too long.we relive the pain over and over and have a hard time letting go.we get trapped in a cycle of hurts and anger ,and miss out on the beauty of life.

The ability to achieve forgiveness and let go of past hurts is one of the most critical challenges many of us face  on the road  to attaining personal peace and happiness.Forgiveness does not mean you are erasıng the past,or changıng what has happened.It does mean you are letting go of anger,pain ,and you are moving on to a better place.Letting go is part of our growth process.we cannot move on to new while continuing to cling on to old.By embracing forgiveness,you embrace peace,love ,gratitude and joy.

It’s not easy ,but you can learn to do it.

‘’Don’t let today’s disappointments cast a shadow on tomorrow’s dreams’’

Remember this words and let them linger "All you just have to do ,is LET GO…let go of all your anger, resentment and all that. If you let go a little, you will have a little peace, if you let go a lot ,you will have a lot of peace."

Holding on

strange but am holding on. Am gonna raise up my head like i have got no pains and walk around with a smile on face like i know no pain. Damn I miss you but i wont say a word. Head up, shoulder squared, chin up, smiled glued on the face. *blabbing*

Longshot

Today was a test of courage, strength, believe, trust, dedication, faith and indeed Love. We almost lost it all, I almost gave up as well but something stirred in me and made me realise letting it all go wasn't a right decision to make. If there is one lesson I learnt tonight, It is that "In the face of adversity, remain strong for your partner even if things seem bleak, hopeless and uncertain. Moments like these makes relationships fail but it is also moments like these we all need to stay strong and stubborn even in the face of adversity.

I made a difficult decision today even when I thought there is nothing more I could have done, but deep down inside I knew and know I made the right decision, not for me, or her but for us; and I hope she remembers to thank me someday, lol. Who ever said relationships are beds of Roses? This is worth fighting for and we shall soldier on with each other's shoulders there to soak away out tears when need be.

I reaLly don't know why am writing this because I have never been one to make my private life public. However, I believe if you are reading this, its because I want you to know and learn that Love is worth every atom of your strength if you must fight for it and trust me when I tell you this "Everything you fight for will always be cherished by you"

I hope someday I will blog about this again and say "I won the War and dominated the battle" and I hope the tears welling up in my eyes at this moment will someday be sheared as tears of "Triumphant Soldier of Love and all it stands for"

Excuse my mistakes because this isn't a preconceived article, it is an emotional out-poor that couldn't be edited or restructured. Don't forget something "Work hard if You really Want it"